We must talk about... money (how very un-British!)

By TP Financial Solutions

25 Nov 2022

tp-financial-april-2022-low-res-13.jpg

This is not an article about inheritance tax planning, per se.  Although, I can certainly help if you want advice on the subject and help you not miss out on the valuable allowances available.  However, this is an article about highlighting the need for families to start a conversation about mmm, mmmm, money. 

It is well known that British people, especially of a particular age, do not like talking about certain topics.  University College London conducted research in 2015, and concluded our personal finances is a more uncomfortable topic for us Brits to talk about than our relationships.1

A survey conducted in 2019 by Lowell, a company which helps consumers and businesses manage their credit position, surveyed 2,000 people about their attitudes towards discussing certain topics. The survey found that religion, mental health and infertility were all more socially acceptable topics than finances and debt.2

And yet, it is estimated that the value of inheritances is set to double over the next 20 years.3  If we extend the time horizon, it is estimated that £5.5 trillion is expected to pass to the next generation over the next 30 years.4 

The recipients of this windfall are expected to be other ‘baby boomers’ and people in the younger Generation X (40- to 54-year-olds) or Millennial age groups, those aged between 25 and 39.5 Let’s just focus on the recipients of these inheritances for a moment.  Data from the Office of National Statistics5 paints the following picture:

Inheritances from spouses of the recipient had the highest value, on average, and were mainly distributed among those aged 55 years and over, Those aged 55 to 64 years were the most likely to receive an inheritance and also received the largest inheritances on average, and Individuals with the most income and wealth were likely to receive the largest gifts and loans, on average.

No surprise in the recipient typically being a spouse, and the spouse also being a baby boomer, as people tend to (but not always) partner with someone of their own age.  It should be remembered; we do live in an era of increasing divorce rates across the different age groups and subsequent re-partnering and second families.  So, choosing who you leave your money to, and how much, is often more complicated than it used to be. The potential for family fallouts is greater. All the more reason to talk about the subject early.

As our life expectancy has increased over the years, then the age of the recipient of an inheritance has also increased.  The baby boomers receiving the inheritance are those people who have enjoyed the greatest increase in the value of their assets, money going to money.

Those leaving the money will no doubt want to ensure that their beneficiaries, be their family, friends and/or charities, enjoy their windfall.  They will also probably wish to minimise the tax man’s take on their bequests in a legal and ethical way.  Figures from HMRC for the 2020/21 tax year show £5.4bn was collected in inheritance tax, an increase of £190m on the previous year.   The receipts from Inheritance Tax have been increasing year on year for some time and look to increase further still.  Inheritance Tax is often referred to as the voluntary tax as there are simple measures to mitigate it, which are often overlooked.

At the risk of raising the elephant in the room…

What would be the benefit of taking the risk, and breaking the taboo of talking about money, either as a parent with your children or a child (and their siblings) with their parents.  Quilter found in their research6 that one in five (18 per cent) of the people in the 55 to 65 (baby boomers) age range who received an inheritance would prefer to pass it on to the next generation - almost immediately.  Remember the ONS data I highlighted previously, money going to money.  Does the recipient really need the money?

Those that do pass on this inheritance pass it straight to their own children (81 per cent). A further 10 per cent skipped a generation and handed it to their grandchildren.

Many 55–65-year-olds have benefited from rising asset prices, (e.g. houses) during their lifetime. Many have enough savings, investments, and other wealth, so may feel that their children or grandchildren need it more than they do.

Instead of thinking of your money as something you leave to your next of kin when you die, why not plan early and support younger family members who have an immediate need for financial support? 

The evidence from the Quilter research indicates that many beneficiaries pass the money on.

If you are thinking of leaving money to specific people, are you sure they really want or need the money, or is there somebody else in the family who could benefit more?  Similarly, if you think you may be in line for an inheritance, but feel your children or grandchildren would benefit more, perhaps now might be the best time to – talk about money.  You might be able to see the recipients enjoy the money you have provided for them.

Whether you are the benefactor or the possible beneficiary, having the conversation now can make sure the money goes to the right person, at the right time and in the right way.

As the old BT advert said – it’s good to talk.

Tax treatment varies according to individual circumstances and is subject to change.

References

1 https://www.independent.co.uk/news/science/talking-about-money-britain-s-last-taboo-10508902.html

2 https://www.thedebtadvisor.co.uk/brits-find-difficult-talk-money-mental-health

3 J Leslie & K Shah, Intergenerational rapport fair?: Intergenerational wealth transfers and the effect on UK families, Resolution Foundation, February 2022

4 Passing on the Pounds report, Kings Court Trust, 2017. Source: Inheritance Economy (kctrust.co.uk)

5 Office for National Statistics - Intergenerational transfers: the distribution of inheritances, gifts and loans, Great Britain: 2014 to 2016 Source: Intergenerational transfers: the distribution of inheritances, gifts and loans, Great Britain - Office for National Statistics (ons.gov.uk)

6 The research was commissioned by Quilter and undertaken by YouGov Plc, an independent research agency. All figures, unless otherwise stated, are from YouGov Plc. The total sample size is 1,544 UK adults, comprised of 529 Baby Boomers, 501 Generation Xers and 514 Millennials. Fieldwork was undertaken between 07/07/2020 - 08/07/2020. The survey was carried out online. The importance of being trusted by your clients’ families | Quilter plc

 

Latest news

1

Lancashire engineering firm teams up with Icelandic energy company Ritherdon deal with Icelandic energy company

Lancashire engineering firm teams up with Icelandic energy company

06 Mar 2026

2

Burnley chosen for second-ever digital and tech festival Leon Caverley Door4 Mark Edwards Seriun Cat Mawdsley Northern Reach Dave Walker and Liz Wilkinson Brandlifi

Burnley chosen for second-ever digital and tech festival

05 Mar 2026

3

CRC Evans accelerates global growth strategy Steven Mackay

CRC Evans accelerates global growth strategy

05 Mar 2026

4

Star Academies set to anchor £45m Blackburn town centre scheme The regeneration in Blackburn

Star Academies set to anchor £45m Blackburn town centre scheme

05 Mar 2026

5

Forbes buys specialist employment practice in growth move Pauline Wild, Nick Jones, Jonathan Holden, Dan Bickerstaffe,Simon Ost

Forbes buys specialist employment practice in growth move

04 Mar 2026

Background image for hub sign up block

LBV Hub

Leverage Lancashire Business View platforms

Post your news
Post your events
Post your offers
Build your network
Improve your SEO
Gain coverage in the magazine
Sign-up
Events
LBV127 March/April Magazine Networking Event
Jan/Feb Networking Event - Closer up
Networking
19 Mar 2026

LBV127 March/April Magazine Networking Event

Salmesbury Hall, Preston New Road, Lancashire, PR5 0UP

08:30 - 10:30

AI & Cybersecurity Summit
AI and Cybersecurity Logo
Summit
28 Apr 2026

AI & Cybersecurity Summit

Dunkenhalgh House , Blackburn Road, Clayton Le Moors, BB5 5JP

08:30 - 11:00

Sub36 Networking - Outdoor Elements
Sub36
Networking
29 Apr 2026

Sub36 Networking - Outdoor Elements

Outdoor Elements, Pump House Dean Wood, Trapp Lane, Burnley, BB12 7JD

09:00 - 11:00

LBV128 May/June Magazine Networking Event
Jan/Feb networking event - hands up image
Networking
14 May 2026

LBV128 May/June Magazine Networking Event

Lancashire

08:30 - 10:30

LBV129 July/August Magazine Networking Event
Nov/Dec Networking Event
Networking
16 Jul 2026

LBV129 July/August Magazine Networking Event

Lancashire

08:30 - 10:30

LBV130 September/October Magazine Networking Event
Jan/Feb Networking Event - Entrance
Networking
17 Sep 2026

LBV130 September/October Magazine Networking Event

Lancashire

08:30 - 10:30

LBV131 November/December Magazine Networking Event
Networking
19 Nov 2026

LBV131 November/December Magazine Networking Event

Lancashire

08:30 - 10:30

RISE - Lancashire's unique leadership programme for women
thumbnail_Emma Weston Illustration WENDY BOWERS RISE Illustrstion.jpg.jpg
LBV Hub Seminars
22 Oct 2025 - 18 Mar 2026

RISE - Lancashire's unique leadership programme for women

East Lancashire Chamber of Commerce, Clayton le Moors, BB5 5JR

09:30 - 15:30

Women Growing Together in Lancashire
IWD Lancashire March 2026 Landscape Graphic Final
LBV Hub Networking
07 Mar 2026 - 07 Mar 2026

Women Growing Together in Lancashire

Dalvee Restaurant, Lancashire

10:00 - 14:00

Bay Hospitality Forum
Logo.jpg.jpg
LBV Hub Networking
11 Mar 2026 - 11 Mar 2026

Bay Hospitality Forum

Lancaster & Morecambe College, Lancaster, LA1 1TZ

10:00 - 12:00

Red Rose Awards 2026
Rra26 Logo315x315
Awards
12 Mar 2026

Red Rose Awards 2026

Winter Gardens Blackpool

18:00 - 02:00

Chamber Business Lunch with guest speaker – John Pye, Eden Project Morecambe
Logo.jpg.jpg
LBV Hub Dinners / Balls
13 Mar 2026 - 13 Mar 2026

Chamber Business Lunch with guest speaker – John Pye, Eden Project Morecambe

Morecambe Football Club, Morecambe, LA4 4TB

11:00 - 14:00

Advertise with us

Reaching 50,000 members, our print, digital and event platforms offer a fantastic way to raise your business profile and help you grow.

Find out more LBV124 Online Graphic
Subscribe now

Weekly news bulletin